Paradigms

"I'm too stupid to make friends."

"I'm fat and ugly. Nobody will ever wan't to be my friend."



"I'm a nobody."

“What you must understand about me is that I’m a deeply unhappy person.”



"I'm useless..."

"...I'm a looser."

Enough of that.

...If you are one of those whom constantly beat them selves with false words such as these, I think It's time to grasp control within your life, increase your self confidence, be happy, and find balance between school, work, friends, and everything else!

Life can be confusing and quite the vortex. Have no fear, friend. This blog will help you in many ways possible. If you let it, that is.

So, if you are one of those people who do beat themselves up with negativity, Be prepared for a 'paradigm' shift!

Or in other words...

Seeing things from this point of view....

                                                            

To this point of view!

Paradigm [pair-a-dimes]: The way you see something, your point of view, frame or reference, belief, etc...

Paradigms are a lot like glasses. When you have incomplete paradigms about yourself or life in general, it's like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription. That lens affects how you see everything else. 

As a result: what you see is what you get.

Here are some examples...

If you believe your dumb that very belief will make you dumb. 

If you believe your sister is dumb, you'll look for evidence to support your belief, find it, and she will remain dumb in your eyes.

If you believe your a looser that very belief will make you a looser.

If you believe your ugly, fat and stupid, those very beliefs will make you ugly, fat and stupid.

If you believe your useless that very belief will make you useless.

On the other hand, 

If you believe you're smart, that belief will cast a rosy hue on everything you do!

You know what I mean?

So, stop right now and consider this question:

Are your paradigms of yourself helping or hindering you?

So what I'm asking you to do is, put on a new pair of glasses. Instead of saying, "I'm ugly", why not say "I'm beautiful", or "I'm handsome". 

Starting now, begin giving yourself positive compliments.

Here is a list of positives for you :)

You can do it!

Yours Truly,

Krista Clingenpeel